1 post tagged “intent”

That's how I spent my weekend/Memorial Day. It was fabulous. What about you?

People (Ms Apple Bottoms & Stacey B. Stacey) keep telling me that I need update this thing more. So here goes it. I'm saying, though. Blogging used to be the big deal, now it's so peripheral. I still write in some form or fashion all the time, but blogging is on the ebb side of "ebb and flow" for me right now.

As I told one of my nearest and dearest today:

I don't really have shit to say, right now. Life is still cool, it's still exciting to be me, even if there's nothing super "exciting" going on by other people's standards.

And that pretty much sums up where I am right now.

Anyway, my friend from high school G sends these "topic of the day" emails out. Today's topic: that age-old dilemma - can men and women have platonic relationships?

I said yeah, but it depends on how you define "platonic." I think people confuse "platonic" with "having no attraction to." I think that's ridiculous, because I think on some level, we all have an attraction to or pull towards our friends. Is it the same kind of attraction you feel towards someone you're trying to get down with? Not necessarily. But I think it's silly to think that we only feel attracted to people we want to have sex with, or are in relationships with. My other H.S. friend said it best: "Just because you feel attracted to someone, doesn't mean the friendship is no longer platonic." I think what makes a relationship platonic or not is the intent.

I am a big flirt and think that many of my friends are hot/attractive, but my intent is to be friends with them, and I think they get that. I build the friendship and maintain it with that intent, and that's what matters. Not that I think they have sexy lips or nice boobs. Or whatever.

My two cents. Thoughts?